The Overcoming Believer's Life
John 16:33, "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have
overcome the world."
Dear reader, God wants you to live an overcoming life! Please read the following lesson with faith, not in yourself, but in God. The Believer's life
is an overcoming life. Even though we will definitely have problems and personal struggles in this life, we will be able to overcome because of
Jesus. Because of Him, we have victory over the world, including sinful habits, bitterness, loneliness, guilt, fear, and discouragement.
This "Daily Maintenance" is essential for all believers, not just beginners in hopes of becoming a new creature fashioned by the Holy Spirit.
The proof is in what John was told to tell the church of Ephesus:
"I know your works, your labor, your patience, and that you cannot bear those who are evil. And you have tested those who say they are
apostles and are not, and have found them liars; and you have persevered and have patience, and have labored for My name's sake and
have not become weary. Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love. Remember therefore from where you
have fallen; repent and do the first works, or else I will come to you quickly and remove your lampstand from its place unless you
repent. But this you have, that you hate the deeds of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate. He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit
says to the churches. To him who overcomes I will give to eat from the tree of life, which is in the midst of the Paradise of God.''
NKJ Revelation 2:2-7
The Nicolaitans were the early Gentile syncretists, who felt they could build communities of believers with the mortar of compromise or political
correctness. These were the false teachers that crept into the church, who disguised themselves as followers of Christ – who professed to be His
ministers and servants – but who led the people astray.
Our prayer is to become "Overcomers" through the power of the Holy Spirit. The "Overcomer's Series" is a gem written by Tyson S from scribd.
Lesson 4 - Overcoming Loneliness
Psalm 68:5-6, "A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth
the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land."
Hebrews 13:5, "God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.'”
Most people encounter loneliness at some point in their life. Schoolchildren want to be accepted by their peers and have friends. Young people
want a boyfriend or girlfriend when they see their friends have those types of relationships. Unmarried adults may lose contact with their old
friends and feel lonely, especially if many of their friends are married and busy with their own families. Married people are lonely sometimes
because their social needs cannot be met entirely by their spouse. Even when we find fulfilling and healthy relationships, we may lose those
relationships due to family breakup, death, or other situations.
There are many reasons why we feel lonely, but the good news is that we can overcome loneliness. In order to deal with loneliness in our lives,
we need to understand why people are lonely and how we can build meaningful relationships.
God created people to have a relationship with Himself
God created people to be social, to have meaningful relationships, and to share lives with one another. Most importantly, God created people to
have a relationship with Him.
The first chapters of Genesis show God created people to have a close, meaningful, day-to-day relationship with them. God gave Adam and Eve
responsibility over the plants and animals, and spent time with them face-to-face. But because Adam and Eve listened to the serpent and
disobeyed God, sin entered into the world and the relationship between God and people was broken. Actually, this has always been the devil’s
intention—to break the relationship between God and people.
So, according to the Bible, people were created to have a relationship with God. People will never feel entirely whole and secure until they restore
their relationship with God. When we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, the sin that separates us from God is erased so we can have a
close, meaningful relationship with God again, just like Adam and Eve had with God before they sinned. This relationship with God is the most
important relationship we can have—more important than any relationship we have with our family, spouse, or friends. You were created to have
a relationship with God, and nothing can replace that relationship with Him.
God created people to have relationships with other people
God also created people to have relationships with each other. When God made Adam, He said it was not good for man to be alone, so He made
a woman, Eve. Social interaction is one of the necessary elements of life. Everyone needs to love and be loved, and to share their lives with
others. It should be no surprise that we need others—God made us that way!
So, if we are made to desire relationships with each other and there are 6 billion people alive, then why do people feel lonely?
When sin entered the world, not only did it ruin the relationship between God and people, but also between people. If we take a look around us, it’
s obvious how sin has destroyed what should be natural fellowship between people. The problem is as old as Cain and Abel (see Genesis 4). Sin
is why people become jealous, suspicious, fearful, contemptuous, and cruel. Because of sin, we have something broken inside us that prevents
us from having immediate, close fellowship with other people.
But when we know God, the thing that is broken inside us starts to heal. Did you ever notice that the Bible teaches very good principles for
building healthy relationships? For example, Christians are taught to submit to one another, to help people in need, and to always be patient and
kind. When we become Christian, the Holy Spirit helps us to become more like God in terms of His character.
Knowing God helps us to have whole, healthy relationships with other people. And that’s what this lesson is about—it’s not about simply making
friends so you won’t be lonely. No, this lesson is about how to be a whole person in God who is ready for relationships with other people.
How to overcome loneliness
God understands why we are lonely and He has the solution. (Actually, He is the solution!) When Jesus began His ministry, He applied the
prophesy of Isaiah 61:1-3 to Himself:
Isaiah 61:1-3, "The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent
me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of
the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on
them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor."
Jesus came to fulfill this prophesy. Jesus solved the problem of sin for us and allowed us to have close, intimate fellowship with God once again.
Before we met Jesus, we were captives of sin, poor in love and the character of God, and without hope. But Jesus sets us free from all those
things that oppressed us before. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is working in us to give us new life. The old has gone, the new
Jesus came to set you free from loneliness. You no longer need to feel unloved, misunderstood, alone, or without close fellowship. Jesus came to
restore the most important relationship in your life—your relationship with God—and to enable you to have close, meaningful relationships with
Let’s learn how to apply this truth in our lives. There are several simple and not-so-simple things we can do to overcome lonliness.
1. Know God is your best companion
At some points in our lives, we all feel alone, misunderstood, and vulnerable. During those times, we need someone to be with us, understand our
heart, and give us encouragement and strength. The Bible says that God does all these things for us—He is always with us, knows us better than
we know our selves, and encourages and strengthens us. He is our best companion.
King David had a very good friend in Jonathan, who supported and encouraged David during the most difficult time in David’s life. When
Jonathan was killed in a battle with the Philistines, David must have felt very lonely. However, David had a close relationship with God and was
able to draw strength from that relationship. When you read through the Psalms that David wrote, they all talk about David’s close relationship
with God. They are an excellent example of the type of relationship we should have with God.
2. Control our thoughts and attitudes
When we feel alone and isolated from others, we are an easy target for the devil. Satan will come to us when we are vulnerable and try to drag us
down with all kinds of lies and destructive thoughts. In John 8:44, Jesus said that when the devil lies, he speaks his native language. We should
learn to recognize and refuse to listen to the lies of the devil.
Satan wants us to feel lonely and miserable. He will tell us that no one understands or cares about us, or encourage us to think negatively about
other people. Satan’s goal is to keep us from connecting with others and receiving godly encouragement.
Brother or sister, you are the only one who can stand up to the devil’s lies. James 4:7 says that if we resist the devil, he will flee from us. But we
need to firmly resist by refusing to entertain negative thoughts and attitudes. When the enemy comes and lies to you, firmly stand on the truth.
You are valued by God and are an irreplaceable part of the church body. God wants to have close fellowship with you and for you to have close
fellowship with other Christians.
3. Focus on meeting other people’s needs
Ask any fisherman, and he’ll tell you that you need the right bait to catch fish. In the same way, if we are caring and sincere people, then we will
naturally attract caring and sincere friends.
The great news is that as we mature as Christians, we learn to be more like Jesus—the most caring and sincere friend ever. In John 15:13, Jesus
said he was our best friend because he laid his life down for our sakes. In Philippians, Paul urges Christians to imitate Jesus by thinking of others’
Philippians 2:3-7, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you
should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus, Who, being in very nature God:
- did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
- but made himself nothing,
- taking the very nature of a servant,
- being made in human likeness."
If you want to develop close, meaningful relationships with others, we need to be more like Jesus. We need to think of others’ interests, not only
our own. Ask God to give you a genuine concern for others, and wisdom to know how to demonstrate that concern.
4. Open up your life
It may sound obvious, but in order to develop close and meaningful relationships, we need to open up our lives to others. This means making
time for social activities, accepting invitations, and reciprocating other people’s efforts to get to know you.
God has made each of us unique, and some are more gifted socially than others. But, as a general rule, the time and effort you invest in building
godly relationships will be generously rewarded.
5. Devote yourself to church fellowship
Loneliness is something that should be rare in God’s church. Acts 2:42 says believers in the early church devoted themselves to fellowship.
Today, things should be no different. The church is still Christians’ spiritual family, and we are all to regard each other as brothers and sisters in
Christ. The church is not just a place where people with similar interests or backgrounds gather—it is the family of God, made up of diverse
people who love Jesus.
Believe it or not, but you have more shared interests with people in the church than with anyone else outside the church. Jesus said that those
who follow Him would be persecuted and hated by the world, but that the love demonstrated in the church would show the world God was with
John 15:18-19, "If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is,
you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you."
John 17:23, "May they [all believers] be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you
have loved me."
Even if you feel there is no one in church who can be your friend, I urge you to devote yourself to the church fellowship because that is where
your spiritual family is. In the end, if we believe the words of Jesus, we ought to stand with our brothers and sisters in the church until the end.
In old times, travelers built fires when lying down at night. Lions would prowl around in the dark outside the camp, waiting for someone to come
out. 1 Peter 5:8 says the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. If we run away from the church fellowship, we
become an easy target for the devil. Commit yourself to the fellowship and stick close to your brothers and sisters.
Loneliness is a serious problem that impacts everyone at different times. We all have a deep longing for sincere, close relationships with other
people because God created us that way. It is natural to desire meaningful relationships with others. Don’t feel that you are the only one that
deals with this issue—even Adam in the Garden of Eden needed another person to be with him.
In order to overcome loneliness, we need to cultivate a closer relationship with God, who will always be our best friend. Friendship with God is like
a massive rock in our social lives. When we stand on that rock, we are socially and emotionally secure. That foundation allows us to relate to
others with confidence, not with desperation. As we become closer to God, the Holy Spirit will also develop us into better friends to others, which
will in turn allow us to build genuine, godly relationships.
1. What is the most important relationship in your life?
2. Why do negative thoughts and attitudes prevent us from having close relationships with others?
3. What are some ways you can meet the needs of others?
4. What opportunities do you have to open up your life to others in the church?
Daily Maintenance: Overcoming Loneliness
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